WHY I LOVE (SELF)-LOVE

 

| LOVE |

The most precious, special, powerful thing in the world.
It's what drives decisions, emotions, communities, life.

It keeps the harmonious flow of the world in tow. It's a vital substance, and we need it to survive.

The problem, though, is that we're always giving all of it away. It's natural for us to want to please the people we love, to show them we care, and put energy into building a relationship; but we've forgotten to put that same time, energy, and care into the relationship with ourselves. After all, it's the most important one we have.

self-love
(noun)
regard for one's own well-being and happiness (chiefly considered as a desirable rather than narcissistic characteristic).

The true concept of self-love first came to me when an Ayurvedic teacher of mine had assigned it as a weekend project. It's funny how it takes someone telling you to take care of yourself for you to actually listen. "Do something nourishing for yourself. Something that feeds your soul and makes you feel cared for and loved, every day for a week."

Easy enough, right?

Wrong.

It actually took a lot of work, effort, and time. Just like in a relationship with any other person.

It got me thinking.. That self-love and self-care is more than just a "treat yo-self" moment at the grocery store. It's making plans with yourself to do something that lights your fire of creativity, serenity, total and complete bliss. 

The thought that in order to feel loved we must find it from someone outside of ourselves is an illusion. 

"The five love languages" is a book that recently got recommended to me from a very beautiful soul, someone very dear to me, and it has changed the way I look at love, and self-love. I encourage you to read it, and discover what your primary love language is. Then give that to yourself every day for a week (at least).

If you discover your love language is "words of affirmation", write down at least seven things that make you feel loved, inspired, excited, and put them in a box. Every day, pull one out and read it.

If you're love language is gifts, give yourself something every day for a week. Buy yourself flowers, or pick a daisy off the grass. It doesn't need to cost money or be elaborate. Taking the time to do something for yourself is a gift in itself.

If you love quality time, spend the evening listening to all your favourite songs while you create a beautiful meal for yourself.

Whatever your love language(s) may be, honor them, and give them to yourself. Schedule weekly time for something you truly love to do.

 

When we feel loved by ourselves, we stop trying to gain validation from an outside source. Love given from other people becomes extra nourishment, rather than the sole substance feeding your heart.

Always remember that we must first love and honor ourselves before we can love and honor those around us.

Because we all deserve to feel loved. 

xx